Secret Love in Bangladesh
In Bangladesh, love is complicated by tradition and familial expectations.
Tobias Selnaes Markussen is a documentary photographer trying to cover the weird and complex world we live in.
In Bangladesh, a society where marriage is still regarded far more as a merging of two families than as a union of two people, love can be a complicated, even dangerous thing.
Religious, economic and social factors are the conditions that count – hard terms for young people who dream about love and freedom of choice.
Many sweethearts meet in secret to escape the disapproving eyes of their parents or even their friends. Parks are a favored location for their encounters.
Text and photographs by Tobias Selnaes Makussen
Arif Mahmud, 26, and Rashna, 21, both students at the University of Liberal Arts, have been together for two years. Their families are aware but do not approve of them dating.
The couple hope that given time their families will eventually accept and support their relationship.
Masum, 29, and Sopna, 20, have been married nearly a month. The couple had never met before their wedding, but have no qualms about revealing that their marriage was arranged.
Advocates of arranged marriages maintain that the wedding is just the starting point on the path to love. Other factors – religion, status and economic wellbeing – should be the real determinants of who marries whom.
Dhaka’s Chondrima Uddan Park is one of the most popular meeting spots for clandestine lovers.
Just a few years ago it was impossible for couples to meet in public places without the risk of being harassed, but times are changing and now they can hold hands and talk undisturbed.
Lakhi and Firoz knew each other for four years before they married. In keeping with tradition, after the wedding Lakhi will move to live with her husband and his family. Tears to mark the bride’s separation from her family are an expected part of the ceremony.
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